Life Without The Sprogs

Sunday, 20 July 2008, 15:11 | Category : Uncategorized
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Crikey, a whole 24 hour period without the boys…what was a girl to do?!!

To be honest, I do enjoy some time without the children - all of them.  I don’t feel too guilty in saying it.  Well…….maybe just a bit.  It does afford you some time to get things accomplished without someone clinging to your leg, or demanding to be fed, or sighing and carrying on about the latest atrocity being served by a sibling though.  Or, if you’re feeling less ambitious, just time to hang about with your partner or going for a quick drive or errand running, without having to pack half the house with you.

Greg and I lead busy lives, so when the opportunity arose that would see Sam and William off to their uncle’s and the twins hanging out with their Grandparents for a period of time, we took the chance to do some really thrilling things.  Yes, we watched not just one, but two films, all the way through and they got interrupted by us for a change!  Absolute heaven!  We ate a late meal, went tootling off to Ottawa without having to get back for any particular schedule-driven thing and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.  I didn’t get much accomplished around the house, but then, I would rather have spent some quality time with the other half than weeding anyway ;)

I love these little spells without the boys.  It doesn’t mean that I don’t love them or that I don’t enjoy their company.  Far from it.  I do think though, that it is necessary to do some things without them - and to get reacquainted with that person that sits across from you at the table who can’t get a word in edgewise for all the racket being made at meal times.  You can get totally lost in the everyday occurrences and before you know it, weeks have slipped by and that person opposite you is looking more and more like a lodger and not your partner at all :)  The time doesn’t have to be long to spend without the littl’uns but  when it’s there, we unabashedly have a fab time.  At the same time, the boys are all enjoying their time away from chores and whatnot, and are doing something different.  By the time everyone reconnects we’re all just a little more refreshed and thrilled to see each other.

I picked up the twins this afternoon, met Greg on the way home as he was heading off to Haliburton for the week, and am now anticipating the arrival of the bigger boys.  I actually feel more tired than I did before they all left - that’s what watching 2 movies in a row will do to you! - but at the same time, rejuvinated and looking forward to some cuddles and stories.

I love my time with and without them - a fine balance I guess!

New Look!

Saturday, 12 July 2008, 14:46 | Category : Updates
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I was just recently told off for not updating my blog more often.  It is true that I seem to be a smidge busy these days, but it’s really not the total reason I haven’t been writing.  In truth, I haven’t really felt compelled to say much of anything because my former blog site just looked so, um, twee.  It served it’s purpose at the time of development, but I’ve since outgrown the cute green froggy and I didn’t like the way the page was set up.  The more I looked at it, the more disinterested I became et voila!  Total blank on the blog front!

Last night, instead of watching my Police “Everyone Stares” flick (which incidentally, I’ve only had around for almost a year now and it’s still in the shrink wrap) I rooted around looking for a new blog theme.  By the time I’d picked out 4, I realised that 3 of them were by the same designer, and all 4 essentially had the same ‘look’.  I’m not sure how long I’ll stick this one out, but for now I think it’s kinda funky and neat…I won’t say like me, because it’s just not true ;)

My dear other half, patiently sat with me for an hour after lunch today, explaining RSS feeds and the benefits of using Google Reader.  I also was shown how to replace some odd characters that had appeared in my posts after a recent move was made.  He’s very clever my other half.  Whether or not I remember anything he’s told me is another matter.  He is very cute when he’s exasperated….

At any rate, hopefully this will perk me up and I’ll feel more inclined to post some tidbits here and there and not just when another pet dies!

Until then,

A.

Our Rose

Wednesday, 21 May 2008, 19:27 | Category : Homestead
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Rose came to us in the year 1997. At that time, we had Daisy. Daisy had been named after a character in a British comedy (Keeping Up Appearances) and in keeping with this theme, we named our new acquistion Rose - the leggy sister to Daisy. Rose came to us from Dr. Gray’s vetinary offices. Someone had dropped her off; the neighbour of a family who had asked her to look after the dog while they went away. They never came back and so the neighbour took her to Dr. Gray’s. Fortuitous for us since we had asked him to look out for a dog for us; someone to be a companion to Daisy. I cannot believe now, that anyone would have tried to dump her. Little did they know what an absolute treasure they had lost.

It was the summer when we acquired her and she and Daisy spent that summer romping like a couple of frisky kids. Frequently you could look out of any window and see a tumble of legs and black fur - for they were both black - rolling around having the times of their lives. Every morning, they would leap out of the front door and do a perimeter check of the property, taking the same route every day checking in on things. I don’t remember too many clashes; they seemed pretty happy in each other’s company. While it meant for a lot of big dog bodies to try to move around in our little house, we made it work. Dog hair seemed to be everywhere and I was convinced that 2 year-old Sam would cough up a fur ball at some point.

Time wore on and the girls blended seamlessly into the family routine. We had decided to put an electric fence around the property in order to dissuade the dogs from roaming and getting too close to the road. Unfortunately, during the winter of 98/99 a lot of snow fell, causing the underground wire to lose it’s ability to function effectively. Daisy, figuring this out quite quickly, became a little bolder each day and edged nearer and nearer to the road - Rose decided to hang back being a little happier to stick close to the house. Daisy didn’t stand much of a chance when the snowmobile hit her that wintry day. Hearing the machine coming, she poked her nose around the snow pile at the end of the driveway (the snow pile having obscured the snowmobile’s view of the dog) and ended up straight in it’s path. She landed 200 feet away on the opposite side of the road and died shortly thereafter. Rose was devastated. In one brief moment she went from being the happiest dog in the world, to one in mourning. Our friend Gary popped by shortly after Daisy’s demise and the first thing he said was “poor old Rose, she’s depressed”. He was right. I don’t think she ever completely got over it. She didn’t romp, she stopped her morning perimeter check, she rarely wanted to be outside and was generally subdued. We didn’t need to fix the electric fence. Rose never went near the road unless accompanying us on a walk, and other than the odd trot into the back field, rarely strayed unaccompanied.

This may have shaped the dog that we ended up with. She took on her role as house dog quite seriously. Having no desire to leave the property she made sure that the small area that she did reside in (the main room in the house) and the meagre area she patrolled, were most definitely hers. She hung out with us in the main room as another family member and looked most offended if she were banished to the entranceway when visitors were here - her body was so big that she couldn’t always be a part of the action! She sat out front of the house and barked at anything out of the ordinary, and greeted the UPS and Purolator drivers with great affection. She saved her deepest love and friendship for Gary - she totally adored him, and he her.

As the years wore on, age started to take it’s toll on her. Last summer, while taking the babies for a walk down the road, Rose almost collapsed. Granted it was a hot day, but she seemed unsteady and short of breath. Tests didn’t find much other than that she didn’t have any major illness. Dr. Gray found her to have an irregular heartbeat and told us to keep her quiet. We found this quite amusing since Rose was happiest when doing anything but moving - any more quiet, we chuckled, and she’d be dead! Still, much to her chagrin, when walk time came, we had to leave her behind and she was crushed. True she loved to be at home, but she really loved to be where we were, and if that meant following us down the road then that’s where she wanted to be. Summer turned into fall, and with it came an infected toe that couldn’t be cured by antibiotics. The toe had to come off and we panicked that her heart wouldn’t cope with the stress of it. She came through with flying colours and was like a new dog. Just before Christmas, we had the opportunity to bring into the home, a new addition. While we hadn’t planned to look for a new dog until the spring, Cassie just seemed too perfect to let go. Rose was unconvinced that this was a good idea. She was less than enthusiastic about our new acquisition and didn’t make any time to be overly friendly. While not aggressive, she certainly gave the impression that she could care less whether Cassie was there or not. Cassie, being a young puppy tried to endear herself to Rose, but toleration was about as much as Rose could muster. I don’t know whether it was Cassie’s arrival, or the fact that the twins could now get around but sometime around February, Rose looked like she was just too weary to put up with so much activity and noise. She took to sleeping under the table in the hopes that she would not be found by probing little hands or a bouncy pup. Her left hip started to give her some trouble and I think it must have been painful as she began to growl at the twins if they touched her and was short tempered with Cassie. We, however, still had the great love we’d been accustomed too despite now surrounding her with so much to dislike :)

On a recent Friday this May, after watching her hobble around uncomfortably for a week or so, Greg took her to Dr. Gray’s for what would be her last visit. She loved going to visit the vet’s office. Goodness only knows why since it always involved some element of discomfort. She had her favourite people though, and I secretly think that she was thankful to them for looking after her until they nudged her into our lives. Dr. Gray reckoned that she had arthritis and perhaps hip dysplasia setting in and decided that giving her a shot of steroids into her hip, would give her a little more comfort. I don’t know whether it was the excitement of getting out, the activity, the shot itself or a combination of those things, but on the way home, Greg noticed that she didn’t seem right. When she got home, I could see that she was decidedly out of sorts especially when she opted to sleep on the other dog bed instead of her usual spot under the table. As the evening wore on, she began to pant heavily and, after looking up about side effects of steroid use in dogs, realised that this was to be expected in the short term. Some time after this started though, she began to get restless. She moved over to her other favourite spot - in front of the couch - and fidgeted the whole time she was there. We didn’t pay too much attention to it, figuring that by morning she’d be feeling more like herself. I could kick myself now. I headed off to bed but wished I had stayed with her. About 45 minutes later Greg woke me up to say she was dying. I was stunned. I came running downstairs to find her going through the last throes of death. Her heart was still beating, her breathing was slow and her eyes were distant. I hope she heard me when I held her and told her how much I loved her. I really do. Five minutes after I arrived, she was definitely gone - in body leastways.

We buried her with the help of her other love, Gary. He wrote a touching poem to her that we’ll treasure for always. It was a tough day.

Now we’re on the search for a yellow rose bush to plant over her burial spot. She’s resting pretty close to where she would sit on pleasant evenings, watching the world go by. It’s also on the route that she would travel when chasing the infamous squirrels that she protected us from. Chipmunks were ok, but squirrels were definitely evil!

I have wonderful memories of our great beast. Her love for all of us, her gentleness despite her grand size, her love of pig ears that she could only enjoy if she consumed them outside, the dance we did anytime the vacuum appeared, her pathetic bark that signaled that she’d had enough of outside and wanted in, her ability to keep track of who was who during our busy season, her affinity (and later, discomfort) for ingesting goose poop, her stinky breath, her wonderful ability at making you feel like shit when she had to be left outside if we were out for the day - she could out-perform Eeyore any day, her long loping strides when we went for a walk in the field, her constant year-round shedding, her look out post on the corner of the house when it was late and the wood stove needed filling, the way she figured that the rug was just a giant dog bed for her, her genuine excitement when she heard Gary’s voice (and to a lesser extent because he didn’t see her as much, Julian’s), and the wonderful reception we would get when we came home after being away - she bounding from around the corner of the house, tail alternately wagging and turning in circles, mouth open, eyes bright and with such a look of love and devotion and happiness you couldn’t help but smile. We shall all miss her fiercely.

Goodbye Rose. We’re so glad we had you to love.

Tractors and Twins

Monday, 12 May 2008, 13:21 | Category : Homestead
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Today marked the first episode in what will - no doubt - be a long love affair with the rumblings of a 4-wheeled bit of machinery. Yes, the twins rode around with Dad in the neighbour’s tractor; expressions of awe and (in the case of David) mild hysteria etched on their tiny little faces.

Greg is doing his farmer-bit; something he ocillates between wanting to do more of and running as far away from as his little stumps will carry him. I think he looks rather, aherm, manly in this role. I wish he could drive a combine. That is the pinnacle of studliness as far as I’m concerned. I’ve been in one - it’s not as easy as they make it look. If he could master that, then he need do no more.

Well, and for the twins, just the mere sight of the dinky tractor was enough to get them drooling…one out of excitement, the other out of fear. James is definitely more apt to want to travel along the path with the sign ‘Curious? Come hither!’. It’s just as well that David is quite content to sit and watch as having both of them roaring around could be detrimental to my health. James could have spent all day bouncing about such was his enthusiasm for the whole experience. David on the other hand, was far more content to play on the grass, as far away as possible from the offending beast, clutching his more manageable toy tractor model; or alternately squeezing the living shit out of my arm as he watched James roar by.

Does it mean anything? Probably not. The pair of them flip-flop back and forth with nearly everything, so that from one week to the next you’re not sure who’s really doing what anymore.

I can’t wait for the fall when the crops come off. If Greg figures it out, there’ll be three of us lined up for a turn around the field in the combine. I’ll be the one drooling and hysterical.

Pat Coyne

Saturday, 29 March 2008, 19:10 | Category : Neighbourhood
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It was with great surprise and sadness that we learned of the passing of our friend and neighbour Pat Coyne this week. I happened to be at work when I heard the news which made dealing with it incredibly difficult. Nobody really wanted to listen to my Pat stories there, and all I really wanted to do was be at home with Greg; to go over our tales of Pat together. As it was, I got home, Greg left for Toronto and we never got to do much of anything other than give each other a quick hug.

And so, until Greg returned the night before the day of the funeral, we each thought of our favourite stories on our own; each remembering something special, funny or touching about our times with Pat. Greg delivered a sort of eulogy today - sort of in that he wasn’t allowed to deliver it at the church and ended up shouting it out at the site of the reception instead. In it, he mentioned some of his memories of Pat and included some of mine too. It was a touching speech and there were lots of heads nodding as Greg told his tales of Pat and his ways. A lot of people he worked with at Upper Canada Village all got up to speak too, and if you hadn’t known Pat before, the picture painted by all of these people would surely have brought to mind the image of man well regarded for many different reasons.

When I first met Greg, I would sometimes visit the Village while he worked there and would take time to visit with the people that we were friendly with. A trip there would always mean stopping in to see Pat. He had a fantastic singing voice, and his deliverance of life as a Lutheran pastor during the 1860’s was terrific. Although he could sometimes come across as a bumbling, eccentric fellow, beneath the surface lurked an amazing source of intellect, knowledge and a love of learning. He would always indulge my questions - no matter how many times he’d probably answered them - as if it were the first time he’d ever heard it. He had a great love of the history of the time and it was extremely hard on him when the focus at the Village altered. It was almost as if he felt a personal attack had taken place. Many a time he would show up after he left the Village almost bordering on tears at what was going on. He was extremely passionate about the maintenance and preservation of historical accuracy.

I have several memories of Pat that make me smile. I once drove the car into the field one winter, at the end of our road. Sam was little and we trudged all the way back to the house on a brisk December night; me fretting about how on earth I was going to get it out. Greg was at a craft show and so I obviously couldn’t ask him. “Aha!” I thought. “Pat!” Pat being Pat, came to my rescue but was apologetic about not getting the car out sooner - this after showing up about 1/2 an hour after I had called him! He promised not to tell Greg that I had done it and puttered off back to milk his cows.

Greg and I went to a wake for a friend’s mother and Pat drove. Pat driving was quite an experience at the best of times. He chattered all the way there and at some point, someone committed a great driving offense which caused a bit of a stir in the cab. The chattering ceased. Pat was pensive for a while before suddenly launching into a great idea he had for putting an end to bad drivers. The idea was to attach a rocket launcher on to the front of his vehicle thus eliminating anyone that dare commit a highway traffic blunder. Greg and I laughed and Pat did eventually, but not after I suspect he imagined the possibility.

Pat had us over for dinner - or should I say, a ‘feast’. He had gone to the local butcher and acquired chicken cordon bleu for the occasion. We were quite taken aback with the meal - it was sumptuous and quite unexpected considering that we knew Pat didn’t cook very much. We had a great wine to compliment, and if I remember correctly, we had the dinner late which was apparently a civilized way of eating way back when. After we had complimented Pat several times on the presentation and how wonderful the dinner tasted, he eventually confessed that he’d had a bit of assistance. Sheila, his sister, had come over and helped him prepare and cook the meal, escaping shortly before we arrived. It didn’t take anything away from the meal at all. In fact, I think it tasted even better because of it. Pat knew what he wanted to do and had taken great pains to make it work. It was totally sweet of him to have made that much of an effort.

There are many more stories out there: Pat and Greg driving around looking for gas during the ice storm, Pat’s moving of a log building onto his property causing traffic blockages as he excitedly awaited it’s arrival, his help when our dog Daisy was hit on the road, our dinner at Le Jardin, his 40th birthday, his absolute thrill that I sent him a card every birthday and his telephone calls that came when he realised that some time had gone by since we had last seen each other.

I had just seen Pat at the bank a week before his death. He had come in to attend to some business and was surprised to see me there. He thanked me profusely for sending him a birthday card (as his birthday had occurred the week before) and indicated that I shouldn’t send him such beautiful ones. We chatted for a bit before he left and I said to him “you should drop by for some tea - we’d love to see you!” This is something that I said every time I saw Pat or that he had said to us, but for whatever reason, we never seemed to get it organised. He only lived around the corner for goodness sakes - it really shouldn’t have been that difficult. He always apologised for not dropping by more often but knew that we were busy. Everyone is busy. It’s not a good reason to not connect with people. He was busy too and it just seemed that those days that we used to see each other more often were from a lifetime ago. I think Greg and I figured that there would be plenty of days ahead of us to sit around with Pat drinking some fine tea out of the beautiful teacups he had bought us for a wedding gift. I could kick myself now. He was such a story teller; full of wonder at the world around him and possessing a great sense of humour. Tea time with Pat was more than just the ceremony of tea drinking. It was a shared trip to wherever he had just been, a conversation he had just had, the views he held on whatever was current and somewhere in there, his love of the land around him. I shall miss his enthusiasm for life, his boundless energy and curiosity and his breadth of knowledge. He was a local treasure and I’ll miss him.